Scenario No. 3:
Vanessa is expecting her first baby and it is time to send
out invites for her skulls and pink bows themed baby shower. Susie and Vanessa are friends but Vanessa
recently saw on Facebook that Susie has confessed to everyone and their grandma
that she is infertile. What to do?!
DON’T: Exclude Susie
from any baby related festivities.
DO: Send Susie an
invitation and leave it up to her to make that decision. If Susie decides to go even though she might
have to bring out her happy face for the event, she is showing you that she is
genuinely happy for your bundle o’ joy just by being there. But do Susie a favor and seat Meddling Aunt
Matilda across the room away from Susie; you had a hard enough time dealing
with Auntie May’s inquiries about finding a husband these past 10 years. If Susie decides she better stay home, please
understand that she is trying to save you from dealing with drama at what otherwise
should be a happy event. I mean, unless
finding your infertile friend locked up in the bathroom bawling for 30 minutes
straight is your idea of a good time, let’s just be grateful Susie sent you a
gift from your registry instead. Maybe
she’ll be up for it when baby #2 decides to show up.
If you ARE Susie…
DON’T: Think Vanessa
is trying to be heartless.
DO: Be happy for
Vanessa for goodness sakes! Would you
rather her be infertile like you?! I
didn’t think so; it isn’t something we wish on anybody. If you decide to go, good for you, I know it
isn’t always easy. If you don’t want to
have to deal with any Aunt Mays, ask Vanessa if you can help with serving food
or anything that will keep you busy and out of danger’s way. If you are at a point in your infertility
where it is just too much to bear, it’s okay to stay home. Send your card and gift with a friend. Some day you might be up for going to a baby
shower again, and some day, it might be your own.
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